Confidence....where do I get some of that?

This post is more on personal reflection. How important it is to be self aware and comfortable and proud of who you are. This will lead to the feeling of happiness and that sense of calm we all strive for. The sitting on your deck, sun shining, relaxed in the moment kind.


Life is challenging. So many different people, so many different personalities, how can you possibly figure them all out? How can you possibly get along with everybody? 


You know the moment of self reflection when you are with someone or a group of people and you think; if I acted more like ______ (I will fit in....they will like me...accept me). That is such a heavy thought. Sometimes we skip the conscious thought and just act. Then what? You now have to show up everytime in this situation and act the same way. How exhausted are you? It takes allot of energy to act in a way not true to your personality.


Keep in mind this entire premise, let's call it character, is based on what you think someone else prefers of you.


The TV show House plays on the level of strength of a persons self awareness. It examines patients' personal characteristics and diagnoses their sickness by figuring out the patients secrets and lies (finding their true behavior). The character House says things to people most individuals would only have the confidence to say once a person has left the room. Think about this, to save your life you must truly know yourself.


What an incredible sense of ease that would be, to be able to just relax, be and say whatever you feel in any situation, with anyone. Listen to your intuition. It says go, then go, it says stay, then stay, it says wear the red dress, then wear the red dress (boys...;)! 


How easy does that sound? 


I know it is not easy. It is a practice. To be brave enough to not worry about what others think of you. To be brave enough to be wrong. To risk. 


Is it worth it? Yes. Everytime. You will end up with family who accepts and supports you for what you want and need in life, friends that gravitate towards you with similar interests that you do not need to 'perform' for, and that special someone. That someone you are completely relaxed with, and you know you can depend on for anything because they love the you that you love being. The you that you are proud of.   


One great way to get to know yourself and become more comfortable in your own skin is by being aware of your personality traits.    

Knowing your personality traits helps you to learn what type of person you are and how you are compatible with others. Not just with a partner but with your co-workers, family, friends. Learn how you relate to other types of personalities to be productive and build solid relationships. Learn when you may have to be more patient, or when you need to stand your ground.


Take your own test at the following link and tell me your results: 
KISA Personality Test


I am a ENTJ:

Extraverted (E) 64%Introverted (I) 36%
Intuitive (N) 59%Sensing (S) 41%
Thinking (T) 50%Feeling (F) 50%
Judging (J) 55%Perceiving (P) 45%


I am a very rational, 'can-do', cut to the point boss. I organize, I manage, I don't get caught up in non-essentials, have new ideas and strategies, see benefits in social justice, recognize others potential, recognize the quality of the moment, help others through difficulties, and I am very ambitious. 


Allot of good things, but being very right minded and rational leaves me needing a balance between my extroverted and introverted sides. I need to pay more attention to my inner side and how the world effects me. I need to take my time on important decisions, especially with decisions effecting those close to me. I try to listen to how people feel (especially when I feel there is no rational reason), practice patience, and acceptance. 


A large part for me is to be very appreciative, loving, and positive. Keeps me balanced. To let those around me know I care about them and that they are awesome. To take charge where I know I can make a positive difference but also take the time to step away to reflect and be thankful. Daily routines for me: be accountable, do not waste your time on anger, be humble, spread love. 

Would you have the courage to save your life? 

"Feed your strengths and face your weaknesses."

This is a journey, enjoy :)