Do you have a 5 year plan....

Do you have things in the back of your mind that you want to do.....at some point... It's that 'at some point' that gets us and leaves it in the back of your mind. Some big things 'have kids', 'get married', 'new career', or life experiences like travel.....Thiland, I hear it's beautiful!...?

I have a sense of calm about the future and confidence in things happening for a reason, the plan that is set out for me. That in part comes from my faith and the belief that we have a purpose in each day.

On the flip side I am very driven and a planner. A compulsive planner! For this reason it helps to have a sense of the direction that I am traveling. I recently made a 5 year plan (my friends and I joke about asking men their '5 year plan' and meeting their Mother prior to any date.... ;). The plan was a short list of important things I want to accomplish. It helped me to relax with the anxiety of wanting to do everything immediately and getting frustrated that I cannot.

There are things on the list that I want to do in my life. It was interesting to me that things like marriage and kids didn't come up first (theses are 'happens when it is meant to' items). Although they are important life goals, things like 'buy property', 'launch my own business', 'adopt a dog' (this clearly comes after property and having extra time at home to train a little monster), 'travel overseas to see a professional soccer game', all came up first.

It is important to take stock of what you want out of life. Then plan it. Even if you are nervous about what it may be, begin the steps towards making it happen. If you want to take a trip, set up a savings account and put a set amount in it every pay-cheque, research locations where you want to go, tell friends and family about your plan. Once the ball is rolling it is harder to stop it and it makes it easier to hold yourself accountable and attain your goal. Often you may hold anxiety or guilt about doing something, then when it happens.........now that wasn't that hard at all. You welcome the feeling of being thankful you had the courage to make it happen and experience it.

This makes it sound heavier then maybe it should be.... You would think that you would drive head first into the things you most want out of life. But, we both know that doesn't happen. The things you really want are usually the things you do not have or have yet to experience. Now. Why do you not have them already.....?

Action......create a list: 2012-2013-2014-2015-2016. List the things you want to do as well as the things you already have in your plan to happen (attend a wedding, move, etc). Realistically place items.....relax and make your plan to execute!

Don't be afraid to dream. You deserve all that you want. But remember, you are the only one who is going to make it happen.....

It's not your Business...quick thoughts....

Business. What is the business of you?

Over the years I have been involved in enough business decisions that I understand if there is a decision made that you do not agree with, everything will work out. Trust. It may not work as you had once invisioned but you have to be able to change along with change. Adapt. Learn.

Business is hard. You must trust in your abilities and refocus on where you are going into the future. Do not get wrapped up in the small fails along the way, no matter how difficult.

That being said, be cautious about who you decide to go into business with. Be realistic about the difficulties surrounding doing business with friends or family. You must be able to be completely honest and separate the personal with the professional. I do not need to tell anyone this is far more challenging to do no matter what your intensions are.

What are you passionate about? What is stopping you? Do you want to look back in 5 years and be in exactly the same spot pondering the exact same question....."should I"......

The one constant in life is change. You are so strong. Own it.


Risk it.....I dare you....

EMPOWER

Searching for depth......

I feel warmth when I am around good people where love is shared. 


I feel angry when I am around people who are deceptive.


I feel confused when I share the company of people who are not self aware or practice avoidance.

You get back what kind of energy you put out into this world.  

What kind of energy are you sending out.....?

Your presence and your energy effects those around you. The more you practice your behavior or your thought pattern the more you believe it and adopt it as your own. Remember that you, as a whole, are a byproduct of your thoughts. Control your thoughts. Put some real quiet time thought into who you want to be and who you want the world to see. Then begin to believe that is who you are now. It is your choice. (If you rolled your eyes at this point, this is your personal indicator you have work to do...) Decide how you are going to approach and how you are going to react. As the age old quote "actions speak louder then words". This is ultimately true! Begin acting in a way in which you want to see yourself, no matter your 'mood' or situation, and you will begin believing it and adopting it as truly you. 


People with similar energy gravitate towards each other. Reflect on the company you want to keep, what you want in a partner, who you want to see your kids spend time with (remember, they are always watching and learning from your actions and apart of your energy.....)... 


Positive thoughts.......list three. I ask my clients to think of three positives from their day before they go to sleep at night. The thoughts can be anything at all from the day. Journal them. Journal your goals and use it to reflect back.


It may take practice to begin to erasing negative thoughts and replacing them with positive thoughts. The effort is well worth it. More and more people are choosing to make the effort. This is not something you do for others, it is something you do for yourself that others benefit from. Use visible cues throughout your day; inscribe a keepsake with a special motivational quote as a way to reinforce positive thoughts.

What goes in your mind has the power to shape what you think, what you believe, and ultimately how you behave.

Walk confidently, talk confidently, smile confidently, act confidently and soon you will be confident. 

You must believe in yourself and your abilities in order to meet your full potential. Not only is it important to create and maintain high self esteem in order to be more successful and productive, it is also critical to leading a healthier lifestyle.. You are so much more beautiful then you think you are. Spread love. Always.

Positive thought. Internal change. Belief. Improved performance. Success. 

Health.

Smile.

Love.